The experience of Uncoupling coaching - client's stories
I sought Katrin’s coaching services to try to resolve relationship issues between my husband and I.
We had been together for 22 years together and I was asking myself what drove my husband to infidelity? It was very hard for me to see this.
Thanks to the work with Katrin I could understand that issues with relationships are shared by both sides and often have been festering for longer than one realises. Katrin helped me identify my source wound and how I unknowingly and subconsciously had contributed to the situation of infidelity and various other issues in our relationship. I also started to see how these issues also showed up in other relationships I have with family, coworkers, etc.
My husband who was doing the same programme with a colleague of Katrin also had important insights. We have both realised how we have contributed to our problem and have taken steps to become more present and aware to each other. We also learned how to course correct when possible. How to listen to each other with an open heart and mind. And how to be more understanding and aware of the others space and needs.
I warmly recommend the uncoupling programme for couples who are struggling and may be on the brink of a breakup. This program can help to lead to a reconciliation or a respectful end to you relationship.
I very much liked the holistic approach of this program and above all else, keeping respect for your partner, children, and family and also ensuring this is paramount to all our actions, thoughts, and deeds. Katrin has been a tremendous coach throughout the process and I would not have come this far without her support. Molina, USA
I feel blessed that I met Katrin Durkoop during my transition period of deciding to break up with my former romantic partner. It has been more than 2 years of struggling and suffering, break ups and getting together again but Katrin really helped me decide and stick to the final decision for a definitive break up. All the time before that I was feeling torn between confusion, love and hopes which turned out to be illusions. I had come upon the Uncoupling concept several months before I met Katrin, so I was really really very grateful that she offered me this opportunity for an intake conversation and the whole programme. I was charmed by her warm, open and non-judgmental attitude.
Before working with Katrin I had tried therapy with psychologists, tapping (EFT), Matrix Reimprinting, different seminars for relationships, channeling and so on and so on trying to figure out what I was doing wrong and why things could not get better.
Now with this structured approach and with the warm loving support of Katrin, who was holding the space for me and skillfully guiding me through the process, I finally understood that I had to let go.
One of the most important thing I came to peace with was that I also have responsibility for the situation between me and my partner although part of it could be only on a subconscious level. Another thing that was kind of revelation to me was that the relationships which do not end in a peaceful way, actually never finish. And why would I like to carry with me this bitterness and non-forgiveness as a burden in my future life? I enjoyed a lot the commitments I made for the programme and all the live sessions with Katrin where I felt heard and seen, supported, understood and encouraged.
Now I feel optimistic and more confident in myself that I can move on with my life although from time to time I still experience a little bit of sadness but I guess with the time it will gradually fade away.
I highly recommend Katrin to anyone who is in a struggle how and if they would like to break up with their partner and at the same time keep the good attitude to each other. Working with Katrin will give you the safe space of honouring and sacredness of the whole process of uncoupling.
Thank you Katrin for your warm support, guidance and professional approach, for your wisdom and understanding! Many blessings to you as I felt blessed to have met you and to have worked with you! Liana R. from Bulgaria
A few months ago I went on the journey of Conscious Uncoupling versus agonising break-up under the guidance of Katrin Dürkopp. While separation and loss always hold deep pain and attract all kinds of fears and doubts, I felt inspired to dive into the hurtful emotions, trying to uncover as many as possible. Katrin's compassionate intelligence created a truly safe base for the unraveling.
She made me feel seen and held and gently guided through. I can only warmly recommend this transformational work, which helped me to shed a brighter light on my relationship past. Honestly it was a surprise for me, how deep this process went and how positive I felt and feel after these 5 weeks. Hannah A. from Germany
I recommend Katrin as a coach for everyone going through a separation process or having gone through such a process and wanting to better understand the underlying reasons and dynamics of what happened in that relationship and also to learn how to build more healthy relationships in the future and being ‘in your power’- when things come to light and become conscious, we start to heal. Thanks for all your wisdom and kindness Katrin Dürkoop and for holding the space without judgment. B.C.
"Conscious uncoupling helped me look at the process of divorce with fresh insight. It helped me move beyond the sense that I am a victim and allowed me to recover ownership of my inner self. This was a very empowering journey which opened the door to forgiveness, inner peace and a sense of purpose for the future. Katrin was truly a precious coach, full of compassion and empathy."
After having followed Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in the One, I can say my life has changed for the better.
With Katrin's aid, I have found the tools to implement more autonomy, responsibility and self-care in my life. The challenges haven't gone away, but my way of dealing with them has become more effective.
The way I relate to people is no longer rooted in pain or victimisation. I have evolved into a woman who can take care of her own needs, who is owning her own pains AND joys. Consequently, my relationship with other people has improved a lot. To my friends, I refered to Katrin as a guardian angel. Sensitive, non-judgemental and very, very delicate. I feel grateful for having had this guardian angel on my journey.
Through my most difficult journey of transiting from a broken unhappy marriage to a single person again, I have found the traditional therapy didn’t offer any practical solution or any guidance on the positive way to move forward. I count my lucky stars for finding Katrin and the Conscious Coupling method as the sessions with support book became my tools to understand better why my marriage didn’t work out, what my part was to own and how I can move forward in more peaceful and graceful way. It has kept me from holding on to negative feelings towards my ex and spared both of us and for the whole family the usual toxic environment that goes with divorcing. We are each happier and are in good terms thanks to my work with Katrin. This is the new way to uncouple from the former partner and I really recommend it to anyone who wish to keep their dignity and grace through tumultuous times and move on in happier way. Thank you Katrin and keep guiding people ! B.P. Brussels
Working with Katrin has been instrumental in the way I have been able to turn the experience of my divorce into an opportunity for introspection and growth. The previously tense relationship I had with my ex has evolved into a more positive dynamic thanks to the wider perspective the Conscious Uncoupling process has afforded me. This transformation has been possible due to Katrin’s gentle yet powerful approach, and to her ability to make me feel at ease during a time in my life where I felt shattered and vulnerable. I will always cherish the safe place she created with her presence, her insights and her invaluable guidance. Katrin is a very wise, gifted woman, a treasure and a blessing in my life.
I.C. , Brussels
When I first went to see Katrin about a year ago I was just beginning to come to terms with the sudden and rather traumatising end to a long relationship. I was still feeling extremely hurt and insecure and the break up still overshadowed my everyday life.
During my sessions with Katrin, I was offered the time and space to reflect, to expresss thoughts and feelings that I was too scared to share with anyone else, and to look inside myself for ways in which I could use this experience to make some positive changes for myself.
I felt that Katrin went above and beyond to provide me with what I needed at each step along the way, both in terms of emotional support and guidance but also in helping me take some simple practical actions to improve my overall well being. Looking back now,
I believe Katrin helped me to heal and to reclaim my life in a meaningful way to the point where I now feel like a wiser, stronger, more self-loving and accepting person than before. Emily M. , Amsterdam
The uncoupling program is an extremely powerful tool and Katrin a very powerful coach and teacher.
We embarked on a 6 weeks journey of transformation together. It did not only change the way in which I think and feel about my separation, but also more fundamentally, the way in which I think and feel about myself and how I want to show up in life in the future.
I now understand that even though my former partner may have been for 90 % the "bad guy" in the context and story which led to our separation, this is a story which was co-created by me, and we thus both share some responsibility in the entire process.
I now feel much more conscious and self-confident. I now respect my limits more, communicate in a friendly but firm way what my feelings and need are (in all types of contexts: in family life, at work). I have accepted that I do not need to be perfect for people to love me or appreciate me. I have already noticed a difference in my interactions with people since these intentions have been set: my relationships with others are already much more "healthy" and sound, I feel that others being to respect me for what I am - since I myself respect me for how and who I am.
Last but not least: I have set the intention to appreciate the father of my child for this wonderful gift he gave me in life, our son, and to always honor and respect him for his fatherhood. We still have a long way to go but communication has already improved between us in comparison with how we interacted before my embarking on this program.
I recommend following the program with Katrin to anyone going through a separation process or having lived a separation. I had been separated for 2 years when embarking on the program and it was still very adapted to my context and situation.
Brielle C. , Brussels